Success Involves Saying ‘No’
Part of building your character is to learn to say no. Many of us are people-pleasers, people who would rather do something they don’t want to do instead of telling someone no. If you do that in business, you’ll end up chasing your tail more than getting things done.
You can stay extremely busy pleasing people, both inside and outside of your business, and never get around to getting your business done or claiming the success you’ve earned.
No matter what the definition of success is there will be times when you cannot keep everyone happy. By actively and proactively managing your time and saying ‘no’ as needed, you can not only protect your time, but you can ensure that you move efficiently towards your dreams and goals.
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Building Success Through Your Character
Your personal character has the greatest impact on your success, because once again, you are your business. At Confident Future we believe that when a business is not doing well, look to the key people and help them ‘fix’ their lives. Then, and only then, will the business thrive.
Your character also helps define your attitude toward success. You have been defining your character all your life and your vision of success has probably changed as your character has changed.
Think about what success was to you when you were in primary school. Maybe it was getting good marks, being accepted by friends and being a great athlete. Or, it might have been to be like your parents, having a good paying job and being happily married with a family.
What was your vision of success when you were college age, or upon graduation? You probably had many plans for how you were going to make a success of your life. Perhaps you were going to find the job for which your education prepared you and start at a high salary level. Then you’d get married and buy a house; everything in the right order and going to plan.
After you’d been in the working world for a while, perhaps your idea of success changed to wanting to be at the top of your game, to perform well in whatever field you had chosen. Or, perhaps you were feeling out of control of your life and your idea of success had changed to getting back in control. This is where a Coach can help.
No matter what the definition of success is to you since your success comes down to your character you need to consider your character when you consider your success. And, you need to continuously build your character in order to continue on your Journey of Success.
It’s easy. . .
Building your character means overcoming your fears, getting perspective and talking things out. Fear will always be there, you just have to get used to them and learn how to work around them. If you focus on fear, it can overwhelm you. When you are overwhelmed with fear, your character is weak. You will soon find that to build your character, you must face your fears and put them into perspective.
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Building Success Through Balance
To build success, In addition to building your character you must develop yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, financially and socially. These five areas speak directly about WHO you are and your character. When any of these five areas becomes out of balance, your character becomes out of balance. For example, maybe you love to exercise but, as you get busy, you let exercise slide and you begin to feel worn down. This gets you out of balance physically.
If you are not dealing with your fears, you are out of balance mentally.
Being out of balance spiritually could be as simple as not looking at success from anything but a money perspective.
Being out of balance financially can happen to anyone and we should know how to get back in balance.
Being out of balance socially means that you have forgotten that you have family and friends, and have not kept them informed of what you are doing with your business or perhaps with your life. It may also mean that you’ve become disconnected from the social side of your business.
However you think you may be out of balance there will be ways to restore balance to your life. Working with a coach will assist you in clarifying this. You can down load unit one of “Life Management - Knowing what you want”, simply cut this address below and paste it after our home page URL: /coaching/self-improvement-units/life-management-coaching/life-management-unit-1
This will help find what areas are out of balance and where to begin.
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The Big Three?
What are the BIG three things that people want more of in their lives?
You got it. . . Happiness, Money and better Relationships.
How are you going in these three departments?
Are you as happy as you’d like to be? Do you have all the wealth you want?
Are your relationships as good as they can be or are you left a little wanting
in one area or another or perhaps all three?
Well the really, really great news is that YOU can have it all!!
Who said that you shouldn’t be rich beyond your wildest dreams, who said
that you don’t have a right to complete happiness and who was the dream snatcher who said you had to put up with mediocre relationships?
Don’t listen to any of them. It’s your birthright to have it all. I’m sure there wasn’t any one standing over the cots in your hospital nursery when you were born deciding which babies were worthy of the best life possible. . . so, what happened between birth and where you are now that changed this right or your perception of it?
How do you go about claiming what’s rightfully yours? How do you have all the happiness, wealth and outstanding relationships you could possibly want?
You simply don’t settle for less, you learn what it takes to ‘BE’ the best you possible; you learn to show up in your life as the most amazing individual and you never, ever settle for less than you are worth.
Understand that wealth has to be created in your mind first; happiness is a natural state and an attitude and relationships have to be cultivated and nurtured.
Getting what you want out of life involves going within. Go on this journey first or get used to life as it is.
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Communication Needs - 10 Ways to
Here are 10 ways to make communication more enjoyable for everyone.
- Smile at strangers. Some of us have taken our parents’ warnings to not talk to strangers a bit too far. Just because you smile at someone doesn’t mean you are inviting him to step over your boundaries.
- Refuse to get involved in ‘my story is worse than yours’ contests. You don’t have to complain about the traffic, your kids, the significant other, the boss, just because everyone else is. Communicate the good and positive things in your life, rather than the negative things. This type of communications is much more enjoyable for those involved.
- We were given two ears and one mouth. Learn to listen twice as much as you speak. You’ll be considered a great conversationalist! You will also be more likely to truly understand what is being communicated to you.
- Be in the moment. Keep your mind where your body is. If you allow yourself to be distracted you are more likely to miss the true nature of what is being communicated to you.
- Communicate acceptance with your eyes. Keep your eyes on your conversation partner. Let her know you are involved with her words.
- Speak with a smile. Open yourself to the conversation.
- Say please and thank you to every soul you meet. Gratitude begets appreciation. Appreciated people feel happier.
- Moods can be contagious. Deal with your mood before conversing.
- Be ready to laugh. Laugh loudly, laugh often. Adult’s average 12 laughs a day. Children laugh over 400 times a day.
- Breathe. Our bodies need a good supply of oxygen to function at peak performance.
Just imagine how much nicer our communication experiences would be if everyone we had to communicate with practiced the above ideas. To look at it from the other direction - if you come across someone that isn’t smiling or laughing or is clearly in a bad mood perhaps you could still practice the above things, and particularly the part about listening twice as much as you talk and find out why they are down. Often allowing someone to unload what is bothering them can make a huge difference to them resolving the problem. You are meeting their communication needs.
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