Confident Future was recently featured in Hallo Magazine, a Spanish magazine for Dutch Expatriates. Jenny Wensing’s recent article on 2020 was translated for their readers.
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What do you do with your goals after you set them firmly in your future? Do you write them down? Do you create a vision board or is having them in your mind enough for you? This video shares a straight forward technique known as a Goal Book. It is a place where you can place all of the goals that are important to you. Plus I share some tips on what to do with your goals once you complete them. Watch the video to find out more:
An article by Jenny Wensing, South Africa.
We are living in an era of unprecedented change. Technology has connected us into a 24-7 non-stop global community, business cycles are faster than ever and stakeholders require instant responses in the midst of turbulent market conditions. This is all happening against a backdrop of profound structural change at all levels in society, politics and economics.
According to global surveys conducted by authors Jeanne C. Meister and Karie Willyerd, and Futurist Graeme Codrington’s research, the following key trends will have a dramatic effect on workplaces for the decade ahead:
Buckle up for the ride!
Each of these trends, and many others will shape our world in the next few years, bringing both threats and opportunities. The key is to be prepared. By 2020 the global talent shortage will be acute, and employees will expect their workplaces to reflect the following:
It was Peter Drucker, the management author who said: ‘The greatest danger in times of turbulence is not the turbulence, it is to act with yesterday’s logic.” The most important first step in responding to these changes is to change how we think, and to explore the many exciting opportunities these workplace trends present. Brace yourself for an exciting journey!
One of ways that you can really help yourself is to make a habit of creating time for yourself. But sometimes that is easier said than done. In this video I share how I have been making time for myself lately and some ideas that will help you do the same.
Please leave a comment if this spoke to you or if there is a particular comment you would like to see covered in a future video.
This video shows how valuable NLP Values truly are (Excuse the pun) and gives an overview of the process involved. Enjoy and please leave a comment with your thoughts.
When you visit the Neuro-Linguistic Programming article on Wikipedia you may notice the big bold warning at the top:
Screen capture at the top of the NLP Wikipedia article taken 7th January 2012.
How does something like Neuro-Linguistic Programming, an increasingly well established field that has existed since the 1970’s, become a battleground on a well known website like Wikipedia? Now, you may be wondering: How is that a problem? I feel it is a problem because when anyone in the world types “NLP” or “Neuro-Linguistic Programming” into Google the first result they are likely to see is this unbalanced account that has been hacked apart of many years by more than a few people with an agenda contrary to one of spreading accurate and reliable information. Yes, NLP has attracted skepticism. But it has also helped thousands, if not millions, of people around the world. If we count the client lists of Anthony Robbins, Tad James, John Grinder, Richard Bandler and Chris Howard alone then we are talking about huge numbers of people. That is before any consideration is given to those Trainers that they have trained to teach these tools and techniques too.
The best summary I’ve read of the situation with the NLP Wikipedia article is:
… “despite the Wikipedia rules about what can appear on the site, the NLP-related page has been awash with lies, misinformation and useless citations for almost as long as the page has been in existence. To put it bluntly, content of the page have been largely controlled by one or more “sockpuppet masters”, who have done their best to keep the page filled with highly selective “evidence” designed to support their attacks on what they imagine “NLP” to be. All comments and evidence which contradict the misinformation is usually cleared from the page within a day or two of being posted.”…
It seems like the current situation exists because of a few individuals who have created fake accounts (Also known as sockpuppets) to spur on the debate. But the problem is that these individuals have more than the upper hand in this situation. Wikipedia has very, very strict rules that govern what can and cannot be posted to the website. And the content guidelines are very specific:
…”Primary (original) research, such as proposing theories and solutions, original ideas, defining terms, coining new words, etc. If you have completed primary research on a topic, your results should be published in other venues, such as peer-reviewed journals, other printed forms, or respected online publications. Wikipedia can report about your work after it is published and becomes part of accepted knowledge; however, citations of such reliable sources are needed to demonstrate that material is verifiable, and not merely the editor’s opinion.”…
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:What_Wikipedia_is_not
And this is the crux of our problem. NLP doesn’t exist in ‘reliable sources’ very often. In fact, the founders seemed to have made a conscious decision to focus on modelling what works, writing it down themselves and sharing it with their audience. There is a lot involved in Hangon, you’re probably saying, they wrote it down? Can’t we reference their hundreds of books? Nope. Books written by people within the field don’t count as ‘reliable sources’.
The biggest problem seems to be that the people most threatened by NLP, the biggest critics so to speak, are often in the best position to create criticism in ‘reliable sources’ such as University Journals, papers at Academic Conferences and so on. And while criticism in these ‘reliable sources’ is not very prevalent, under the Wikipedia rules it is much more acceptable to be included. In fact, contributions to the Wikipedia article referencing the books written by authors who are NLP Trainers can be deleted as an unreliable source!
Until Wikipedia relaxes their rules OR NLP becomes more established and verified in these ‘reliable sources’ I being NLP will never be accurately represented on Wikipedia. I welcome your discussion. If you have ideas, suggestions or comments then join the discussion and let me know!
Further reading for those who are interested:
- Wikipedia article on Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Wikipedia Discussion Page for the article on Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Master Sock Puppeteer Outed? on NLP Connections Forum
In the latest video from Jenny Wensing she lifts the cover on motivation just in time for 2012. Discussing the difference between Towards Motivation and Away Motivation Jenny then shares with you how you can better motivate yourself through changing how you use language. For a fast and simple motivation top up watch this video, change your language and enjoy your results!
Wishing you each and every success in 2012 – may this be your best year yet!
In this video Jenny Wensing shares The Power Relationship Question that you can use to better understand your partner and improve your intimate relationship. Watch this video for a quick exercise that you can implement immediately in your life. An ideal video for anyone that is in an intimate relationship or wants to be.
For further information about The 5 Love Languages and to take the online test check out this previous blog post:
» The 5 Love Languages
Watch this video for information about how goal setting may actually be making you fail. This is important if you’re setting goals, super important if you ever want to achieve them. Watch on for more information…
Read Forbes.com for a quick summary of the Journal article:
» Visualize Success If You Want To Fail (Forbes)
Sometimes when I first share the power of a pendulum with a class there are concerns that it is “voodoo” or some kind of witch craft. That couldn’t be further from the truth and there is a strong scientific backing to how the pendulum works. Whenever a pendulum is used what is actually creating the movement of the pendulum are tiny micro movements in the body. These micro movements will change based on the thoughts of the person holding the pendulum and this is generally known as the “Ideomotor Effect”.
The Ideomotor Effect relies on small, unconscious motor movements caused by the person’s thoughts. These small movements are exaggerated by a weighted pendulum hanging from a chain (Normally 10cm or longer). A minute movement of the finger will lead to a larger movement being made by the pendulum. These micro movements in the finger can be further exaggerated by additionally anchoring the elbow on the surface of a table as you will also have any mico movements in the forearm/arm contributing to the effect (This technique is demonstrated in Confident Future Hypnosis Training Courses). Importantly, the person holding the pendulum must be holding it with minimal tension in their hand/fingers as even the slightest amount of tension will interfere with the micro muscle movements.
Now, you’re probably thinking: But how on earth does a thought create unconscious motor movements? Let me give you some examples: Have you ever started thinking about one of your favourite foods and started to salivate? Or have you ever mistaken a stick that looks like a snake and jumped back in surprise? These are both examples of the Ideomotor Effect. Simply put it when something imagined leads to a movement that happens without thinking about it.
So what a pendulum allows us to guage is whether the unconscious mind is in agreement (YES), or disagreement (NO), when a certain idea is focused upon. Interestingly it is often possible to guage from the movement of a pendulum what someone’s Unconscious Mind is thinking, even if consciously they are confused and unsure of their answer to a question.
With the theory explained I wanted to share what I would normally say to a client before I used a pendulum with them. Keep in mind that a pendulum would normally only be used in specific circumstances and nearly always at the end of a session so it assumes a strong rapport. I would normally pre-frame using the pendulum by saying:
In a moment we are going to do a process together that uses a pendulum. Now, I don’t want you to think that this is voodoo or witch craft. This is a process that uses a phenomenon called the Ideomotor Effect. The basic premise of the Ideomotor Effect is that when you hold a thought in your mind there are tiny changes in the muscles in your body. Those tiny changes in the muscles in your body can be exaggerated by the pendulum so even if your fingers only move a tiny amount we can see that movement more clearly through the pendulum. We aren’t connecting with anything but your Unconscious Mind and this process is easy, simple and quite fun once we get going with it. (Then I would follow the Pendulum Script, setup a Yes and a No signal with the Pendulum and conduct the change work)
Hopefully this blog article has been helpful and allows you to have a greater understanding for how and why a pendulum works. If you have questions or would like further information then please leave a comment below.
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