Motivation

Here is an interesting You Tube video I came accross to day. It speaks for its self!

Taking Control - Where do I begin?

Where do I begin to take control of my life?

Begin by recognising that whenever you take an action there will be a result. It may or may not be what you want but learning to look for what you can learn from the result of your actions is very powerful.

Think about something in your life that doesn’t seem to be working exactly as you’d like it yet and ask - what can I learn from this? And how can I use this learning to do something differently next time?

As you work on taking control of your life, it’s not unusual for a little self-doubt to begin to creep in.

This is completely normal so you can relax, after all if we were sure of every outcome before we took the action where would the fun be? It would be like going to the cinema and knowing the end to every film. So next time you find yourself doubting yourself or your abilities why not just take it as a sign that you are growing.

The fact that you’ve noticed yourself doubting yourself or your abilities is great because means that you can begin to work on turning this around now. As a first step just begin to ask yourself more empowering questions, such as:  How could I use this doubt to help me move forward? How could you enjoy taking action today?
How do I control feeling overwhelmed, which leads me to procrastinate?

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A good thing or bad thing?

What do you think?

Defeat may be a stepping stone or a stumbling block according to the way you accept it.

After an accident left me paraplegic I had a choice to get on with my life despite the challenges or wallow in self pity. I chose to focus on what was good and what I could do. I have gone from strength to strength and my life has got better and better. When I talk to groups in my capacity as an Inspirational Speaker, people regularly feed back to me that I do more than a lot of others. I am truly happy despite challenges most can’t imagine.

I constantly see people who are physically fit and healthy yet I believe more disabled than me due to the way they think and what they believe.

Do you believe in yourself as much as you need to have the best life possible? If you don’t then what will you do about it starting today? If you do then how do you pass that ability on to others and help them improve their lives?  Let me know by posting a comment below.

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Success Involves Saying ‘No’

Part of building your character is to learn to say no. Many of us are people-pleasers, people who would rather do something they don’t want to do instead of telling someone no. If you do that in business, you’ll end up chasing your tail more than getting things done.

You can stay extremely busy pleasing people, both inside and outside of your business, and never get around to getting your business done or claiming the success you’ve earned.
No matter what the definition of success is there will be times when you cannot keep everyone happy. By actively and proactively managing your time and saying ‘no’ as needed, you can not only protect your time, but you can ensure that you move efficiently towards your dreams and goals.

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Building Success Through Your Character

Your personal character has the greatest impact on your success, because once again, you are your business. At Confident Future we believe that when a business is not doing well, look to the key people and help them ‘fix’ their lives. Then, and only then, will the business thrive.

Your character also helps define your attitude toward success. You have been defining your character all your life and your vision of success has probably changed as your character has changed.

Think about what success was to you when you were in primary school. Maybe it was getting good marks, being accepted by friends and being a great athlete. Or, it might have been to be like your parents, having a good paying job and being happily married with a family.

What was your vision of success when you were college age, or upon graduation? You probably had many plans for how you were going to make a success of your life. Perhaps you were going to find the job for which your education prepared you and start at a high salary level. Then you’d get married and buy a house; everything in the right order and going to plan.

After you’d been in the working world for a while, perhaps your idea of success changed to wanting to be at the top of your game, to perform well in whatever field you had chosen. Or, perhaps you were feeling out of control of your life and your idea of success had changed to getting back in control. This is where a Coach can help.

No matter what the definition of success is to you since your success comes down to your character you need to consider your character when you consider your success. And, you need to continuously build your character in order to continue on your Journey of Success.
It’s easy. . .

Building your character means overcoming your fears, getting perspective and talking things out. Fear will always be there, you just have to get used to them and learn how to work around them. If you focus on fear, it can overwhelm you. When you are overwhelmed with fear, your character is weak. You will soon find that to build your character, you must face your fears and put them into perspective.

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Building Success Through Balance

To build success, In addition to building your character you must develop yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, financially and socially. These five areas speak directly about WHO you are and your character. When any of these five areas becomes out of balance, your character becomes out of balance. For example, maybe you love to exercise but, as you get busy, you let exercise slide and you begin to feel worn down. This gets you out of balance physically.

If you are not dealing with your fears, you are out of balance mentally.

Being out of balance spiritually could be as simple as not looking at success from anything but a money perspective.

Being out of balance financially can happen to anyone and we should know how to get back in balance.

Being out of balance socially means that you have forgotten that you have family and friends, and have not kept them informed of what you are doing with your business or perhaps with your life. It may also mean that you’ve become disconnected from the social side of your business.
However you think you may be out of balance there will be ways to restore balance to your life. Working with a coach will assist you in clarifying this.  You can down load unit one of “Life Management - Knowing what you want”, simply cut this address below and paste it after our home page URL: /coaching/self-improvement-units/life-management-coaching/life-management-unit-1

This will help find what areas are out of balance and where to begin.

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Can Money Buy You Happiness?

“I know that they say money can’t buy happiness but I’d like to find out for myself.”

This is one of those quotes that got me thinking;

It was my partners sons birthday yesterday. He seemed pretty happy with all the presents he got. It was money that allowed those thing’s to be produced and for us to purchase them.

Whenever you see an ad for World Vision, Save the Children and the like, the kids that now have a full belly or fresh water or a chance at education always have smiles on their faces. It is money that allows those things to happen.

When you buy a new car a new TV, a new house etc that seems to put a smile on your dial. All made possible by money too.

I have attended many personal development seminars that all take a sizable monetary investment. Most of the people I have met at such events are extremely happy at seeing new possibilities. Again it is money that makes these events possible.

I am a Foundation member of XL Results foundation. This is a networking group for entrepreneurs with the aim of ending world poverty through helping it’s members to excel in business so that they have the ability to help the world’s problems by having more income than they need and therefore the ability to give. Within this group there are people putting meals in children’s stomachs, others making cost effective solar lamps to allow children to study at night, others planting trees to clean up our air or saving endangered species. One lady who started a charity to help her people in Zimbabwe was given $1,000,000 by another member because he had more than he needed and she had the cause. More things made possible due to money.

The people doing these things are getting a huge amount of satisfaction at being able to contribute to the things that they are passionate about.

As a Success Coach I see my clients and hear of colleagues clients making amazing changes in their lives. These people make a sizable monetary investment in themselves to improve the quality of their lives and a lot of them significantly improve their income as a result of being coached, and in the process create many different options for them and their families.

What have these people done differently?

• Such people invest in themselves,
• take responsibility for their actions and lives
• take the steps to modify their behavior.

And as a result of this reap the rewards.

An interesting point is that the most dedicated and successful clients are usually the ones that are stretched the most by the coaching fee. This is because of what they have at stake. No matter what you are doing:

“If the money you pay out hurts you in the pocket you are a lot more likely to make changes that you may find difficult in order to get your monies worth from the investment you are making.”

As part of my coach training I was required to coach people for free for a 3 month period. Out of 10 such clients only 5 got any results. The reason is that they didn’t value it and so didn’t put the effort in and hence got no results.

So money can fix a lot of the world’s problems and that will make a lot of people very happy on both sides of the equation. I personally think that we owe it to ourselves and this wonderful planet that allows us our amazing and precious lives, to do what it takes to be the best that we can be.

So can money buy you happiness? I’d like to suggest it depends on:

How you define happiness?

What steps you are taking to be the best you possible?

Who or what are you investing in?

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Finding Happiness - it isn’t just in the fairytales

It’s my experience when working with people that being happy is high on their list of wants.So in this sometimes chaotic, competitive, demanding and unsympathetic world, how can we find contentment? We can choose to be happy, now, we can choose to think pleasant thoughts, now.

Here are my thoughts and some tips on how to be happy.

You can be happier than you are right now, not matter how your life is going.
Happiness is a state of mind in which our thinking is pleasant.
It’s not just something that happens to us but is something we have direct control over.
Most people postpone happiness telling ourselves we’ll be happy when-we get married/divorced, we are successful, get a better job/retire, win lotto, have a baby/when the kids leave home, lose weight, have plastic surgery, find true love, find ourselves, find the meaning of life, or some other distant event or circumstance. So we wait for something that might never happen, or if it does, prove not to be the solution we thought it would. We think being happy depends on something happening to us or on us deserving it. We need a reason to be happy.
And most of us sabotage our own happiness by:

• Expecting perfection - one of the all time biggest myths!
• Concentrating on externals to bring us happiness-other people, acquiring things, achieving things.
• Fretting and being irritated over trivial irritations such as traffic jams, having to wait, being passed over for promotion, other peoples’ rudeness, a waiter getting our order wrong, or any of the countless other small ways in which the Universe lets us know it does not care about our convenience.

We can choose to be happy by:

• Having happiness as a mental attitude, making it a habit.
• Being happy for no reason at all, simply because we want to be, because it feels good and we want to feel good.
• Breaking the habit of feeling annoyed every time anything goes wrong.
• Not seeing setbacks as blows to our self-esteem (don’t take the traffic jam or the insults personally).
• Not letting events and other people dictate what we think and do.
• Even if things are really bad and we cannot be happy, at least we don’t need to make things worse by thinking dramatically negative thoughts such as ‘this is a disaster, a catastrophe, I’m devastated, I’ll never get over this.’ Such thoughts are not facts, only opinions and therefore alterable.
• Human beings are goal oriented so it is much easier to be happy if we are striving for something. Working towards something focuses the mind on a positive, takes it off problems, and gives us the pleasant expectation of something to look forward to.
• When faced with a problem, don’t bemoan the misfortune but face it and act positively to solve it (a goal to work toward).
• Accepting that happiness is not something that happens to us, it is something we can make happen.
• In times of distress and crisis using memories of happy times and successes to help get us through and to inspire us.
• Closing our minds to negative thoughts and redirect our thinking toward positive and pleasant things.
• Focusing on what is good and pleasing and ignore the rest.
• Choosing to think about only happy past memories and never dwell on unhappy ones.
• Choosing to think kindly and tolerantly about others and avoid criticizing and judging them.
• Choosing not to see other peoples’ rudeness or thoughtless as a personal attack.
• Getting rid of the unrealistic expectation that everything will always go our way.
• Believing life is still good even if we can’t have everything we want.
• Deciding to focus on what we have rather than what we lack.
• Deciding to give at least as much as we expect to receive.

In the words of Allen Chalmers:
The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
Put the above changes into practice for a month and see how much better you feel.

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